Anonymous said: Hi... I'm a sex-repulsed asexual, but I want to "fix" my repulsion also if I'm kinda... scared. Any advice? ç_____ç (P.s.: Sorry if I sent this more then one time, my internet suck D: )
Hey there Buttercup,
Why exactly do you want to ‘fix’ your ‘repulsion’? I personally think that the reasons behind wanting to try to change who you are or who are comfortable being right now is what needs a little more attention. If you’re just curious about sex, more of a ‘test driving the car’ deal then I’d just say ‘have fun! take a look at all the porn and cuddle with all the people!’ but it sounds like you’re trying to ‘fix’ something that you feel is ‘broken’.
It is okay to not like sex. It really really is! ( I myself only dig the nasty, like, once every leap year. Truly) You’d be surprised how little sex matters to a good number of people, so if you’re feeling ‘broken’ or ‘wrong’ for any reason I beg you to take a look at that and try to work on loving yourself for who you are. Being ‘scared’ doesn’t really sound like you’re supremely interested in trying out the whole ‘sex’ thing.
It’s totally natural to be uncomfortable, even scared when it comes to sex, asexual or not! For a lot of people sex is a really big deal because it’s not just about the physical aspects but has a lot of do with trust and respect and feeling safe with someone. Society likes to make a huge deal out of sex, and for all the wrong reasons. It’s a much more personal thing than they like to let on, so if you do want to look into it try to keep in mind that there is no wrong way to do it (for the most part).
But if you feel that you really are a not-sexually-enthusiastic-or-interested asexual than please know that continuing to identify with that is 1,000% okay. It’s perfect! and if you think that you might want to find out about other things, that is also 1,000% okay as well! Whatever you choose to like, love, want, not want, as long as you’re doing it for you and you are comfortable with it, it’s 1,000% awesome!
You are a rock star.