1. Anonymous said: Hi... I'm a sex-repulsed asexual, but I want to "fix" my repulsion also if I'm kinda... scared. Any advice? ç_____ç (P.s.: Sorry if I sent this more then one time, my internet suck D: )

    mental-health-advice:

    Hey there Buttercup, 

    Why exactly do you want to ‘fix’ your ‘repulsion’? I personally think that the reasons behind wanting to try to change who you are or who are comfortable being right now is what needs a little more attention. If you’re just curious about sex, more of a ‘test driving the car’ deal then I’d just say ‘have fun! take a look at all the porn and cuddle with all the people!’ but it sounds like you’re trying to ‘fix’ something that you feel is ‘broken’. 

    It is okay to not like sex. It really really is! ( I myself only dig the nasty, like, once every leap year. Truly) You’d be surprised how little sex matters to a good number of people, so if you’re feeling ‘broken’ or ‘wrong’ for any reason I beg you to take a look at that and try to work on loving yourself for who you are. Being ‘scared’ doesn’t really sound like you’re supremely interested in trying out the whole ‘sex’ thing. 

    It’s totally natural to be uncomfortable, even scared when it comes to sex, asexual or not! For a lot of people sex is a really big deal because it’s not just about the physical aspects but has a lot of do with trust and respect and feeling safe with someone. Society likes to make a huge deal out of sex, and for all the wrong reasons. It’s a much more personal thing than they like to let on, so if you do want to look into it try to keep in mind that there is no wrong way to do it (for the most part). 

    But if you feel that you really are a not-sexually-enthusiastic-or-interested asexual than please know that continuing to identify with that is 1,000% okay. It’s perfect! and if you think that you might want to find out about other things, that is also 1,000% okay as well! Whatever you choose to like, love, want, not want, as long as you’re doing it for you and you are comfortable with it, it’s 1,000% awesome!

    You are a rock star. 

    <3<3-Feather

     
  2. 21:46 3rd Jul 2012

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    Reblogged from deadling

    Tags: asexuality

    quailsareneat:

    wow breaking news!!!

    • not all asexual people abstain from sex
    • being asexual doesn’t mean you don’t want to be in a relationship
    • it’s actually horrid to say something like “you just haven’t had good sex” or “you haven’t met the right man/woman/what have you yet” to an asexual person. WHO KNEW
    • asexual people can get married and have babies and still be asexual!!!
    • “oh, you’re asexual? i bet i can change things” NO. STOP.
    • asexuality =/= being a prude
    • asexuality =/= being innocent about sex
    • asexuality =/= never having sex ever
    • being an ace is ace
    • it’s rude to dismiss/not include asexuals in the queer community
    • asexuality REALLY DOES EXIST. pls stop saying it doesn’t!

    in other words, asexuality is

    • a lack of interest in sex
    • lack of sexual attraction to others
    • not a joke

    that is all please carry on. {feel free to add to this list if you want!}

    (Source: pocketmouse)

     
  3. Something I’ve noticed myself doing.

    Lately, I seem to be using the word “ace” a lot. Mostly as a synonym for “cool” or “good.” Like, say you’re showing me something you made and I like it. I say something like, “whoa that’s totally ace!” and I mean “that’s frickin’ awesome!”

    Or sometimes I’ll say “ace” instead of “you’re welcome” when someone thanks me.

    I feel a little weird doing that because I know ace is commonly used to mean asexual, but I’m not… using it that way, I guess? I think I’m referring more to playing cards than anyone’s sexual orientation. Like how the ace is a high card.

    But still. I feel weird about it, because I’m not sure if it’s okay to use words that could describe a sexual orientation as adjectives that pass judgment on something, even if I mean it in a positive, I-like-this sort of way.

    So, any asexual people, or people who fall anywhere on the asexual spectrum, have anything to say? Any advice? Is using “ace” as a way of indicating that I like something an acceptable thing, or should I start phasing out of my vocabulary?

     
  4. Hey tumblr,

    rainbowcatvomit:

    So, we’re going over Sexual Identity.

    Mostly we were talking about Homosexual and Heterosexual. I brought up Asexual, and my teacher asked me to email him information about Asexuality.

    If anyone wants to send me any personal information or experiences about asexuality, demisexuality, and grey-a I’d appreciate it.

    I’m not asexual so I can only give him a third-party point-of-view, but I would love to send him any first-hand experience. 

    Just please send me a message answering these questions to help him better understand it:

    1. What do you identify as (sexuality, or lack there-of)?
    2. At what age did you know you were _______?
    3. How does it feel to live in a sexually dominant environment?
    4. How do your loved ones react to your identity?
    5. Has your identity affected your ability to assimilate in society?
    6. Do you educate others about asexuality? If yes, how?
    7. How has your identity affected your romantic relationships? (If you’re aromantic also: How has your identity affected your platonic relationships?)

    You’re also welcome to add questions or skip anything that makes you uncomfortable. 

    This would be very helpful in informing others about asexuality and help them understand it better. 

    Please spread this around tumblr, I’d love to get as many views as possible.

    Anybody who’s some shade of asexual!! 

     
  5. (Source: ace-music)

     
  6. All of the Pride Scarf Pictures!

    stitchcraft:

    So, a couple months ago, my roommate and I gathered together a group of people (including ourselves) to take photos of and model the pride scarves I made for my etsy shop. Now, finally, I have the photos, and I’m putting them up here to share with you. :) These won’t be going up on etsy until after my winter break (so, late January), but if you’d like to reserve one, please let me know. There’s only one of each right now, they’re $20 each ($5 shipping within the US and $10 shipping anywhere else), and it’s first come, first served!

    More under the cut!

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    REBLOGGING FOR TWO REASONS:

    ONE!!!! I THINK THIS MIGHT INTEREST SOME OF MY FOLLOWERS!! PRIDE SCARVES!! LET ME (OR JENNY) KNOW IF YOU’RE INTERESTED!!

    TWO!!! I AM THE DWEEB IN THE TYE-DYE SHIRT AND RAINBOW SCARF, Y’ALL!

    MESSAGE FROM JENNY:: SHE TELLS ME SHE’S PROBABLY GOING TO PUT THEM UP FOR SALE IN DECEMBER RATHER THAN WAITING UNTIL AFTER BREAK!!